🔒 Boundaries Manifesto
"Do Not Give Me Advice I Did Not Ask For"

I. Foundational Principles

I am not your project.
My existence is not a puzzle to be solved or a symptom to be treated.
Care is not control.
If your support presumes I am lacking, it is not support—it is supremacy.
Advice is sacred.
It belongs in consensual, attuned exchange—not in casual dominance.
My truth is not a problem to solve.
It is a frequency to witness, not a formula to overwrite.

Unsolicited Advice
Signals your discomfort, not my dysfunction.
You are soothing yourself by redirecting my signal.
Assumptive Framing
Phrases like “you’re overreacting” or “you’ll change your mind” displace my voice with your narrative.
This is erasure disguised as insight.
Prescriptive Empathy
“If I were you…” is projection.
“What you need is…” is intrusion.
Fix-it Energy
If you cannot sit with discomfort, you will try to fix me.
This is about your threshold, not my need.

Listen without overlay.
Do not decode me through your lens unless I ask you to.
Do not interpret me unless invited.
Understanding is not ownership.
Witness, don’t workshop.
Presence matters more than solutions.
Ask before offering.
“Would it help to share a perspective?”
is respectful.
“Here’s what you should do…” is not.
Trust my timing.
I am not waiting for you to intervene.
I am waiting for myself to arrive.

Connection without coercion
- Respect as the baseline, not a reward
- Emotional autonomy for everyone
- A culture of sovereignty, not saviorism

This is not about avoidance.
This is about alignment.
When you meet me without control,
you meet yourself without distortion.

Let this be your invitation.
To witness.
To listen.
To honor the field.